Have you noticed that when we are nice to someone because we want them to be nice to us, this does not work? Our love is conditional – there is demand and expectation here. The other person will always pick up on it, as their energy and ours are one.
This is a misunderstanding of the law of cause and effect. In reality our underlying belief is not loving kindness and a desire to connect, but a critical thought or feeling, and this is what we shall receive back.
It is always a good idea to see what our motivation is! For what we are really giving, we receive. One is not separate from the other.